How to spot and stop financial abuse

Until recently, financial abuse was often kept secret, especially where it occurred within the family. Thankfully that’s changing with public awareness campaigns and help becoming more readily available.

The emotional and economic damage caused by financial abuse can be far reaching and devastating. A recent Australian report calculates that in 2020 alone, financial abuse victims lost $5.7 billion while the cost to the broader economy was $5.2 billion.i

Nearly one in 30 women and one in 50 men suffer financial abuse each year, according to the Deloitte Access Economics report The Cost of Financial Abuse in Australia, 2022. These figures are almost certainly an underestimate, the report adds.

There are no typical victims of financial abuse: those affected are of all ages and means. Sadly, the abuser is often a friend, carer, partner or family member.

How to spot and stop financial abuse

What is financial abuse?

Financial abuse is when someone uses your money without your permission, prevents you from getting access to money or takes charge of your financial decisions.

These days, financial abuse is considered a form of domestic and family violence, taking away your independence and leaving you feeling vulnerable and anxious. Victims may also suffer physical violence and emotional abuse.

The most common type of financial abuse is withholding income or controlling how it is spent, according to the Deloitte report. But there are other forms of abuse that can be equally harmful such as making a partner liable for a joint debt, preventing someone from working, refusing to contribute to household expenses and refusing to contribute to the costs of raising a child.

Many victims also suffer flow-on effects of the abuse such as financial hardship and stress, leading to mental health issues. Some may also lose their home.

In some cases of family violence, one partner takes control of the couple’s finances, preventing the victim from leaving the relationship. In others, where the victim does manage to leave, the abuser may continue their abuse using tactics such as expensive legal action or disrupting the victim’s work or business.

Recognising the signs

Victims of financial abuse may not be aware of the abuse for some time, allowing perpetrators to empty bank accounts, deplete investments and incur large debts in the victim’s name.

The federal government agency, Services Australia says the warning signs include:

  • taking or using your money without your permission

  • not being allowed to work

  • having to account for how you spend your money

  • withholding financial information from you

  • spending any government payments you receive without your consent.ii

Incurring debts in your name is another form of financial abuse. Your partner may spend more than you agree on your credit card, pressure you into co-signing a loan with them, or take out a loan in your name, according to Australian Family Lawyers.iii They may also limit your educational opportunities by, for example, preventing you from enrolling in studies that could advance your career.

Older people and those living with disability can be particularly vulnerable to financial abuse if they rely on others for help and advice. Financial abusers may take money from their bank accounts or wallets, ask an older person to change their Will, take jewellery or other valuable items from their home, or take control of their decisions using a Power of Attorney when they are still capable of making their own decisions.

Where to go for help

If you or someone you know is suffering financial abuse, a number of free and confidential resources are available.

The MoneySmart website provides information about free legal advice at community legal centres or legal aid centres, and a number of suggestions if you need urgent help with money.

You can also find free and confidential counselling for family violence, abuse and sexual assault at: 1800RESPECT (24 hours a day, seven days a week)
1800 737 732

For crisis support, contact Lifeline (24 hours a day, seven days a week)
13 11 14

We understand that it can be difficult reaching out for support if you feel you or someone you love is being taken advantage of financially, especially if a family member is involved. Please call us on 03 9553 0271 if you would like a confidential discussion about safeguarding your finances.




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Darryl Jopling

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I have worked in the financial services industry since 1982 and as a Financial Adviser since 1999.

I have worked for large Financial Planning businesses, Membership based organisations and looked after the financial planning needs of clients within an Accounting Practice before starting my own business.

I am married, have 4 older children and a grandson and I am keen golfer with mixed results like many .

I have been through many of the strategies I talk with clients about myself and with my family.

I have been through the journey of seeing my parents move into Aged care and negotiated the difficulties and pitfalls of understanding the system for them and this gives me an excellent insight into what is required to assist families at this difficult time.

In a previous roll I used to run retirement seminars looking at Centrelink and Retirement Incomes and how to make these work for you. I have helped many of my clients with Aged Care advice when their parents needed to move into Nursing Homes. For many clients I assist them with superannuation, building wealth and protecting their loved ones with insurance.

I am supported by his, Licensee, Interprac Financial Planning’s in-house resources and ongoing technical, systems and training.

I am committed to understanding your needs and identifying strategies and products to help you achieve your goals.

My guiding principle as an Adviser is to design plans which help to provide my clients with clarity of purpose and the opportunity to build a solid financial foundation.
I will take the time to listen, explain things clearly and keep you informed throughout the advice process.

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